One month ago I transitioned out of one job and into another and managed to snag a couple days to myself for said transition. These days of nothing planned were important to me to have. I am the sign of the scales, and do have a huge propensity to share the very nature and essence of this inanimate object, and that is, ‘to balance’. I am always striving for and struggling with b a l a n c e. Balancing healthy eating, working out, alone time vs social. Balancing and juggling (do they go hand in hand?) it all.
Around the same time as starting this new gig, I started taking classes in Kabbalah. In one of the earlier classes we discussed how it is our nature as Homo Sapiens to feel good when we have achieved that something we have set out to achieve. We are lit up and experience all sorts of feel-good emotions. This perhaps is an obvious truth, but one nonetheless, is good to remember. To simply be given that A, gold medal, pat on the back, when it wasn’t earned does the opposite. There is no satisfaction. There is no light. We need to strive, work towards, achieve achieve achieve to feel good.
So what happens when you desperately need a personal day to just be? A few days in between jobs to not do anything but putter around the home? Maybe read; mostly lounge; internet (v)? There’s a little bit of self loathing that goes on. Why is this? Does every day have to have something? Yes. In my experience, yes. When I crawl into bed and reflect on the day, if I am to not feel guilty about wasting it, there has to have been something. Even half a something (I’m thinking of you 10-minute yoga routine; or 30-minutes of language study; or even typing these words) that allows you to feel like you accomplished something. You met a small target, that works towards an end result: a small or large goal.
A Reddit response to someone talking about being a procrastinator was shared with me a couple years ago. It has stuck with me ever since and the takeaway for me (seriously read it), is thus: to live each day in a non-zero way. I feel I need a day of no demands, but what usually ends up happening by 5 PM is I feel like crap. So, I think, let today be a day where I accomplished something, anything. ONE THING more than nothing; naught; zilch. Z E R O. Thus, a non-zero day.
What’s a zero day? A zero day is when you don’t do a single f******g thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros… Didn’t do anything all f******g day and it’s 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me?
A huge thank you to ryans01 (for paying it forward) to 99u and Hamza Khan – for if it weren’t for you when I Googled, “articles on accomplishing goals – zero day”, I don’t think I would have found ryans01’s post. In fact, I wasn’t entirely sure it was first published on Reddit. So. I thank thee.
Props to all you non-zero-day having people.