With a lot of significant life changes planned on the horizon (stay tuned, though I be dropping hints all over the place like here, here, and here), it is important to have managed expectations. Too often I fall victim to my expectations and end up very disappointed in myself or worse yet, in others.
I’m sure you can relate.
I have an overseas adventure planned, a three-leg journey if you will, and though I have the first two legs of the trip relatively figured out: where I need to be and who I need to meet, I have left the majority of my trip unplanned.
I find it’s typically in the planning where the expectations hide. The expectation that a particular tour is going to be amazing or a tourist site (sight even!) is going to be the best thing you ever did see. The expectation that the weather will be great, relationships and transit will run smooth and without a hitch, and you’ll stick within your budget. Your accommodations will meet your expectations and you will pack all the things you will need. Ha!
The list can go on.
But there shouldn’t be a list. I think it’s great if there’s hope. Hope that all of the above will be amazingly awesome, rainbows, unicorns, and sunshine. But practice and experience lead to the understanding that it all won’t work out that way, and that’s perfectly fine. C’est la vie. And so, it might be necessary to stop having expectations altogether.
Nearly impossible. Unfortunately, expectations creep up, sometimes without warning. They linger and you’re left wondering, “Well, what did I expect?” And that’s only if the expectation is as obvious as I’ve made these examples out to be. Sometimes, we don’t even know we have a particular expectation about ourselves or an outcome. Expectations can be insidious.
It’s how we handle the expectation (after of course, being aware that there is one in place to begin with).
Want to dig a little deeper? Get to know thyself a little more intimately and see what you can do for yourself to let go of those expectations?
If you’re anything like me, the struggle is real and the overthinking self has to work hard at relinquishing the expectations created. And if you’re anything like me, you want a better way. A way to feel a little peace and to not play victim to the internal and external drama your expectations can generate.
What to do?
I’ve compiled a few ways to help bring recognition to our expectations and to help release them altogether. Download my free eBook and try these steps with me, they may just bring you a little closer to some much-needed peace.