5 easy steps to let go of expectations, plus free eBook!

Let go of expectations

With a lot of significant life changes planned on the horizon (stay tuned, though I be dropping hints all over the place like here, here, and here), it is important to have managed expectations. Too often I fall victim to my expectations and end up very disappointed in myself or worse yet, in others.

I’m sure you can relate.

I have an overseas adventure planned, a three-leg journey if you will, and though I have the first two legs of the trip relatively figured out: where I need to be and who I need to meet, I have left the majority of my trip unplanned.

I find it’s typically in the planning where the expectations hide. The expectation that a particular tour is going to be amazing or a tourist site (sight even!) is going to be the best thing you ever did see. The expectation that the weather will be great, relationships and transit will run smooth and without a hitch, and you’ll stick within your budget. Your accommodations will meet your expectations and you will pack all the things you will need. Ha!

The list can go on.

But there shouldn’t be a list. I think it’s great if there’s hope. Hope that all of the above will be amazingly awesome, rainbows, unicorns, and sunshine. But practice and experience lead to the understanding that it all won’t work out that way, and that’s perfectly fine. C’est la vie. And so, it might be necessary to stop having expectations altogether.


Nearly impossible. Unfortunately, expectations creep up, sometimes without warning. They linger and you’re left wondering, “Well, what did I expect?” And that’s only if the expectation is as obvious as I’ve made these examples out to be. Sometimes, we don’t even know we have a particular expectation about ourselves or an outcome. Expectations can be insidious.

It’s how we handle the expectation (after of course, being aware that there is one in place to begin with).

Want to dig a little deeper? Get to know thyself a little more intimately and see what you can do for yourself to let go of those expectations?

If you’re anything like me, the struggle is real and the overthinking self has to work hard at relinquishing the expectations created. And if you’re anything like me, you want a better way. A way to feel a little peace and to not play victim to the internal and external drama your expectations can generate.

What to do?

I’ve compiled a few ways to help bring recognition to our expectations and to help release them altogether. Download my free eBook and try these steps with me, they may just bring you a little closer to some much-needed peace.



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  1. May 1, 2017 / 6:10 PM

    Letting go of expectations is one of the most difficult things to do! I’m definitely working on it. Looking forward to reading your tips!

    • Julia
      May 1, 2017 / 6:47 PM

      It really is! But a little practice goes a long way!

  2. Jo ~ Beyond the Lamp Post
    May 1, 2017 / 12:27 AM

    I think even if this is something you’re usually pretty good at managing, it’s something that just pops up out of nowhere every so often, and it can be really difficult to manage. Great idea to create an ebook about it!

    • Julia
      May 1, 2017 / 7:02 AM

      Thanks, Jo! It’s true! Just when you think you have a handle on it, you’re thrown for a loop!

  3. Andi
    April 28, 2017 / 12:24 PM

    So hard to let go for me personally but you are 100% correct in your writing. I need reminders like this, thank you Julia!!

    • Julia
      April 28, 2017 / 9:23 PM

      You’re welcome, Andi! I write to remind myself too. I need reminders for my reminders!

  4. April 28, 2017 / 9:54 AM

    I love that gentle shift from expectations to hope. It’s such a sweet, doable course-correct, and it feels loving instead of pushy on the self.

    • Julia
      April 28, 2017 / 9:25 PM

      Yes, exactly! I’m currently doing a meditation practice for 21-days focusing on hope. Hope to me has always been a magical gift I can keep in my back pocket and use as needed. Thanks for the kind words Kayla!

  5. April 27, 2017 / 11:29 PM

    I’m very much looking forward to reading your tips, Julia! I always find that it’s when I have big expectations that I end up feeling more let down if it doesn’t work out. It’s something I’ve been working on some and I’ve found that it really does make a difference to just let it go!

    • Julia
      April 28, 2017 / 8:32 AM

      Thanks, Rachel! Yes, you’re right, it’s in the letting go where the peace lies. Let it all go!

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